We were getting back on track SO nicely....and then he suddenly asked me if he could borrow money..we fought..?

If a guy is telling you he's not over his ex, the last thing you do is say 'come back when you are'. This makes you look desperate. And of course continuing to message someone who has blown you off is never a good idea. He's looking for money, you message him. He thinks he has you wrapped around his little finger - he knows you're established and would most likely have that money. So of course he's going to tell you everything you want to hear to get the money. The 'I'm not good enough statement' means, 'I'm not feeling this, and the easiest way to let you down is to make it seem like you're at fault for being too good'- total cop out. But he's obviously had a change of heart about borrowing the money. The worst thing you can say when someone you don't really know asks you for that sum of money - especially so early on, is 'I don't know' - this to him makes it seem negotiable. It Is not negotiable - the answer should always be 'I'm sorry, no I don't have that kind of money'. I know a girl who was stuffed around by a guy, yet kept giving him money. When I asked her why, she said 'he and his kid don't have any money to eat'. I said he has friends, family etc that can help him. And while he was low, using his kid as an excuse to obtain money, she was so stupid for believing that she could buy affection from him. I couldn't believe that someone so new in her life would make his financial problems HER problems, and in such a manipulative way! And she was silly enough to fall for it! The point is, people do and say a lot of things to Get money. They really don't care who they step all over or who they hurt to get it. So be grateful You didn't give him the money, you would never see it again. Don't message him, or his friends again. It makes you look like an obsessive stalker. realise that people can just be really shitty - there is not deeper meaning to his behaviour - he's an ***. He would have known he was not going to see you and is just playing games with you. Even if he calls, sobbing about how bad his life is and how he made a mistake - don't be fooled. Tell him you've moved on to a real man and for him to stop calling. Gain the upper hand. Don't let some kid walk all over you.